Hello and thank you for reaching out!
So sorry you are frustrated! Unfortunately, I also do not see a configurable option to turn on audible or vibrating notifications while on a phone call. You might want to explore the Play Store for 3rd party applications or options that allow such notifications.
Thanks and have a great day!
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